Mister Manners, Thomas P. Farley, is an etiquette expert, speaker and author who’s helping America’s professionals master essential manners for success in the workplace—and in life. His workshops for banks, law firms, universities and Fortune 500 companies are engaging and memorable, offering employees strategies for getting along and getting ahead.
Mr. Farley is a regular and popular guest on the Today show, where he speaks on matters of modern-day etiquette—subjects from “avoiding awkward hugs” to “what not to wear at a company beach outing.” His insights appear regularly in other media outlets as well, including the CBS Early Show, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, Wired and Money magazines, USA Today, CNN, ABC and on radio stations across the country.
Throughout 2011, he served as an ongoing guest-host for the daily call-in program Living Today on the Martha Stewart Living Radio network. He also helped launch that channel’s “Manners Monday” segment, which focused on matters of contemporary etiquette.
Mr. Farley was the “Social Graces” editor for Town & Country magazine for the better part of a decade and has been a guest lecturer at New York University’s School of Continuing Education and Professional Studies. He is also the editor of the anthology “Modern Manners: The Thinking Person’s Guide to Social Graces.”
In tandem with fellow etiquette expert Diane Gottsman, in 2012 he created Thanksgiving Unplugged--a nationwide awareness campaign that encouraged Americans to disconnect from their electronics on Thanksgiving as a means of reconnecting with family, friends and, of course, food!
“I think it’s important for both adults and kids to know that being mannerly doesn’t entail memorizing long sets of rules,” he says. “It often means simply thinking twice before you act.”
A graduate of Fordham University, Farley says these are challenging times for good etiquette: “In this age of constant connectedness and digital distractions, polished manners are in very short supply.” And yet, he explains, “Individuals who make a habit of valuing people over pixels are the ones who will truly get ahead.”